Say NO to child sexual abuse

Nishtha Desai defends victims of travelling paedophiles through Children's Rights in Goa. Here's her story…

Taking up the cause
Being a lecturer and also interested in research, I was led to explore the issue of travelling sex offenders. The more I researched the subject, the more I felt the need to get actively involved in a programme to prevent the institutionalisation of tourism related child sexual abuse.

Fighting for their rights
Children's Rights in Goa (CRG) is involved in child protection and the advocacy of children's rights. Its activities are exclusive to the coastal belt of North Goa. Children's Rights in Goa has three core programmes:

1) Child Empowerment Programme through which it works directly with children in the north coastal belt;
2) A Campaign Unit to spread awareness on the need to protect children from abuse or exploitation at the local level;
3) A Child Protection Cell to manage cases of abused children referred to CRG, and to assist child victims seeking justice through the legal system.

In addition, there is a documentation unit and is involved in capacity building of different stakeholders such as police, teachers, hotel staff etc.

Children are the future
It would help if CRG could forge links with the corporate sector and organise for the vocational training of older children, resulting in better employment opportunities. Giving children the opportunity to look outside the confines of hawking and working in shacks is very important so that they understand that there are other vocations they can get into.

CRG observes India's ratification of the United Nations Convention of the Rights of the Child by organising a Bal Mela every year on 11 December. The objective of the Mela is to provide a platform for the participation of children from different socio-economic backgrounds from the Child Activity Centres and the formal schools.

Changing laws
The Goa Children's Act provides for the adoption of a child friendly tourism code by the Tourism Department and the tourism industry. CRG participated in the drafting of the Goa Children's Act making significant contributions to the section on Child Abuse and Trafficking.

Today Goa is the only state in India to have the Act. It is a comprehensive law that attempts to make the United Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child legally enforceable; guaranteeing children's rights to survival, development, participation and protection.

On 4 June 2006, members of the Travel and Tourism Association of Goa (TTAG) took a pledge to adopt the Child Friendly Tourist Code developed by TTAG office bearers. We felt that this was a very significant step.

Vigilant adults, safer children
Numerous complaints have been made to the police since the launch of the campaign. Interestingly, CRG has received a number of complaints from tourists, who are extremely disturbed when they witness fellow tourists engaging in inappropriate behaviour with children.

CRG also believes that the Goa Children's Act has to be implemented in letter and in spirit for it to transform children's lives. All members of civil society, especially children, need to be aware of the provisions of the Act so that they can ensure that children's rights are not violated with impunity, as is the case today.

India's billionaire list doubles

Reliance Industries chairman Mukesh Ambani is once again the wealthiest person in India. The net worth of the promoter of the largest listed Indian company is put at $32 billion, an increase of 54 per cent from nearly $21 billion last year, according to a Forbes report.

"Trailing behind him are Lakshmi Mittal (Arcelor Mittal) with a net worth of $30 billion, up 46 per cent from $20.5 billion, and Mukesh's estranged brother, Anil Ambani, whose net worth of $17.5 billion, 40 per cent, higher than before, put him in third place," it said. A rebounding stock market that gained two-thirds in the past year and an economy growing at 6 per cent have boosted the net worth of India's richest people. The combined net worth of India's 100 richest people is $276 billion, almost a quarter of the country's GDP.

"Last year, there were only 27 billionaires on the India Rich List. This year, the number has almost doubled to 52, just two short of what India had at the peak of the stock market boom in 2007," according to the Forbes report.

Though the top 10 positions remain largely unchanged, there are some shifts in fortunes across the list. Sunil Mittal, chairman of Bharti Airtel, has moved down from Number 4 to Number 8 and Wipro chairman Azim Premji has moved up to Number 4 position.

"The Ruia brothers (Essar group) with a net worth of $13.6 billion have made it to number 5 this year. Adi Godrej has moved out of the top 10 to the number 12 position. Savitri Jindal, nonexecutive chairwoman of O P Jindal Group, at a net worth of $12 billion this year has made it to number 7 on the list she is one of only six women on the list," the Forbes report said.

The richest newcomers are two brothers from Torrent Power - Sudhir and Samir Mehta, ranked 23 at $2.02 billion. Another notable mention is Nandan Nilekani who has stepped down from Infosys board and is now a part of government. He ranks 43 with a net worth of $1.25 billion. Southern India's TV king Kalanithi Maran, ranked 20, almost doubled his net worth to $2.3 billion from $1.2 billion.

Behold the sexiest man alive!

Hollywood star Johnny Depp has been named the sexiest man alive by 'People' magazine. This is the second time the 'Pirates of the Caribbean' star has been awarded the title. Let's take a look at Depp and the other winners over the last five years!

Hottest New Spot

Times Square in NYC was heating up as the cast of CW’s hottest show Gossip Girl attended the opening of the American Eagle Outfitters Flagship Store opening party.

The big gossip of the night was watching Leighton Meester take over the mic and perform for the crowd that brought in Jessica Szohr, Michelle Trachtenberg, Ashlee Simpson, Entourage's Adrian Grenier among others. Leighton sang her new single "Somebody to Love” while Pete Wentz took on the turntables.

The AE store is 25,000 square-feet in the heart of Times Square. VIP guests walked an interactive, subway-themed red carpet featuring an American Eagle accessories cart and were the first to explore the brand's four floors of New York-exclusive offerings. Guests personalized their own American Eagle hoodies, received trucker hats painted by New York graffiti artists and shopped for limited-edition aerie underwear with graphics of New York neighborhoods. In a nod to Times Square's cinematic spirit, New Yorker’s were treated to inside access to the event through live streaming on American Eagle’s 15,000-square-feet exterior LED screens.

'Pretty Woman Plot Synopsis

Self-involved corporate raider Edward Lewis has recently split up with his girlfriend. Seeking directions to the Beverly Hills Hotel, he makes the acquaintance of free-spirited hooker Vivian Ward and decides to put her on a 3,000-dollar retainer as his "date." He Cinderellarizes her by bankrolling a full wardrobe and cosmetic makeover. Of course, the setup will be strictly platonic. A disarming modern-day fairy tale, Pretty Woman was the picture that made Julia Roberts a superstar. As charming as she is in her "giggling" sequences, Roberts' best scene is her triumphant return to a posh Rodeo Drive shop where she'd been previously snubbed. Keeping Pretty Woman afloat throughout is the buoyant direction of Garry Marshall and the always welcome presence of Marshall's stock company of actors, including Hector Elizondo as a stuffy but golden-hearted concierge. Pretty Woman began its life as a much darker story of prostitutes and homicidal drug dealers, but more box-office-savvy heads ultimately prevailed.

Yoga for Hotter Sex

In ancient times yogis practiced abstinence from sex so that all of their energy could be directed toward yoga and spiritual advancement. Makes you wonder: How could these supposedly wise guys have gotten it so wrong?

Today yoga lovers are finding that more time on the mat means more--and steamier--time spent reveling in their newly toned bodies. To take a walk on yoga's carnal side, add these sex moves to your yoga routine for overall better sex. Or just do them by themselves to turn up the heat.

Flex Time Is Sex Time

Having more flexible muscles and joints definitely helps in assuming those compromising positions. Opening your hips in particular gives you a wider range of motion in your nether regions, allowing for more direct stimulation in just the right spots. After all, one micro-movement in missionary is sometimes all it takes to ring the bell.

Sex Rx: Bound Angle In a seated position, bring the soles of your feet together, put your hands on your ankles, allow your knees to relax toward the floor, and hinge forward at the hips as far as is comfortable. Hold for 10 to 15 complete breaths (inhales and exhales).

Power Up the Pelvis

Strengthening one key muscle helps you engage and lift the pelvic floor, bringing you more sensation and control during your sex moves.

Sex Rx: Root Lock You may also hear this referred to by its Sanskrit name, Mula Bandha. Seated or standing, contract and then release the pubococcygeus muscle located between the pubic bone and the tailbone, as if you wanted to stop the flow of urine. You can even do this at your desk, say, 10 times at three workday intervals.

Sex Goddesses Go the Distance

Shake-the-headboard sex moves are hard work. "The better shape you are in, the more pleasure you have and the longer you can do it," says Kimberly Fowler, owner of Yoga and Spinning Studio in Venice, California.

Sex Rx: Yoga Pushups Start in the pushup position, arms extended. Engage your abs as you lower your body slowly toward the floor. Stop when your torso is about 2 to 3 inches away. Keeping elbows in, hold there for five breaths, then lower to the floor. Repeat three times at first and build up to five.

Charge Up the Bed Batteries

A killer day at work can leave you too beat to boogie. But a few minutes of nonstrenuous yoga when you get home can mean one less night with Netflix and one more erotic evening entwined with your sweetie.

Sex Rx: Legs Up the Wall Change into some yoga-friendly clothes. Lie on your back with one hip touching a wall. Swing your legs up and turn your body so you face the wall, legs resting against it from heels to butt, arms at your sides. Bring your awareness to your breath and focus on it for 5 minutes. This position allows more oxygen-rich blood to flow from your lower body back up to the heart and the brain, so you'll get up reenergized, refocused, and ready to rumble.

Breath of Desire

While most yoga poses help prepare you for a libidinous rendezvous, this breathing exercise can actually heighten your pleasure in flagrante.

Sex Rx: Breath of Fire While you're in the act, take rapid, forceful, and rhythmic breaths through your nose with your mouth closed. Don't worry if your partner thinks you're hyperventilating; he'll forget all about it when you reach a spine-tingling climax (and no doubt take credit for your fulfillment).

Double Your Pleasure

Practicing yoga with your man is like foreplay, says Jacquie Noelle Greaux, creator of the Better Sex Through Yoga video series. "You start to breathe together, sweat together, and move together. It gets your energy synched up." Some mat work might make him more sex-imaginative as well. "Yoga sparks creativity," Fowler says. "Women don't want bang-boom from a man, they want an explorer--and yoga invites you to explore."

Talking to Your Parents About Sex

We all have questions about sex. Some are based on curiosity, some are based on fear and some are based on pure anticipation! And though you may no some people your own age who think they have all the answers about sex, they probably don't. To be honest, many adults haven't got it all figured out either.

So, who can you go to for answers? Ever think about talking to your parents about sex? They may not have all the answers, but they're great resources on sex because they have definitely been there - you're living proof of that. And in the rare case that they don't have the answer to your question, there's a good chance they'll know where to find it.

You may be contemplating having sex for the first time, debating back and forth about how to handle your sexual feelings. There are a lot of aspects to consider first. You have to weigh your morals and emotions carefully and then decide what you really want...and remember, the decision is permanent - there's no way to "un-have" sex. And even though your parents may just want to scream "nooo!", it's only because they love you and have your best interests and your health in mind.

In the end, you're old enough to know that, good or bad, you're going to have to live with your decisions. What you choose to do is your call, but it's a good idea to really think it through, and talk to a few people about the way you feel before you decide on anything.

You may feel that your parents' values and attitudes are a bit stricter than your own. You may just chalk this up to "old age," but they may also have some valuable reasons for feeling the way they do. Believe it or not, but questioning authority and the reasons for doing things is a sign that you're growing up. A simple, "because I said so" is usually enough to convince young kids to do something a certain way, but you're older and you need to know why things are done.

But remember, just because you don't necessarily agree with everything your parents have to say, it doesn't automatically mean they're wrong. And you might be surprised just how open your parents are about talking about sex.

Just tell your parents that you want to talk about sex, or try these line to "back into" a conversation about sex:

• "We're going to be talking about sex in school this year, but I don't really know that much about it."
• "We talked about sex in class today. I learned a lot of really interesting things."
• "I heard some kids talking about sex today. They said that...(mention something you want to know about sex)...is that true?"

How To Drive Him Wild

Men are sexually stimulated by visuals. Women are often different in this respect in that they tend to respond more to what they hear and feel. Switching off the light might be a real turnoff for him.
Ask him what he likes. Men are mostly quite straightforward creatures and will respond honestly to a direct question as to what he enjoys – this can be done over a glass of wine, or in the bedroom. Often it is easier to talk about sex if you are not in a sexually-charged situation. It is better to feel a bit silly for a few minutes than to find out, months down the line, that what you have been doing to him is not what he wanted.

Easy does it. Be gentle in your touch. Men can find rough handling very painful, especially initially. Most men enjoy oral sex, but not all of them. Ask before you simply go ahead. And remember, teeth and rings can inflict painful wounds.

Stop/Start A sexual encounter is not a journey on a runaway train. Go slow. It is highly stimulating to slow down sexual stimulation before an orgasm is inevitable, and then to start again. Many men experience more powerful orgasms, when the preceding sexual encounter did not last a mere five minutes.

Gentle caressing of the genitals and nipples is very stimulating to most men. Use your hands, your mouth, or even your own nipples. Ask if he would like a firmer touch – don’t just assume it.

Kissing can be very arousing. Start gently. Explore gently – remember that neither of you is digging a mineshaft with your tongue.

Never underestimate the power of suggestion. Descriptions of what you would like to do to him, have the power of interrupting dinner dates or making someone leave work early.

5 Easy Tips to Seduce Women

Seducing a woman is an art form that has a certain rhythm. Seducing a woman is like dancing with a woman. For the most part, women are looking for men just as men for women, and, for the most part, the only difficulty which presents itself in seducing a woman is persuading her that you are indeed the man for whom she is looking. The general idea of seducing a woman is to make her comfortable, to help her to relax.

Last, but not the least, seducing a woman is all about understanding a woman from deep within. One of the most important tips for seducing a woman is to be indirect and subtle. The biggest mistake a man can make when seducing a woman is to move too fast. The first phase of seducing a woman is getting yourself ready. The second phase of seducing a woman is interrupting her, and getting her attention. The worst thing you can do in seducing a woman is becoming her friend first. The art of seducing a woman is also exercising the power of walking away. And most importantly it's about honestly not wanting something in particular from a woman because seducing a woman is not a goal in itself, is not a hunting game, nor a chess game.

Sexy Japanese Idol

Reon Kadena, also known as Minamo Kusano, was born on Feb. 19, 1986 in Osaka, Japan. She stands 5′5″ tall and weighs a mere 95 lbs, but the petite model does not come short with her 35C-23-34 measurements.

As a highly popular Gravure idol in her native Japan, Kadena mainly profits from photo books and self-promotional DVDs (most with clothes on), but in recent years, she has explored other opportunities by making appearances in movies, talk shows, TV commercials, and late night comedy skits.

Reon’s innocent and angelic appearance, paired with her fabulous figure, has made her the sexiest and the most profitable Gravure idol in Japan.

Brazil Model Who Lost Hands, Feet Dies

Mariana Bridi, 20, died at 2:30 a.m from complications related to a generalized infection caused by the bacteria Pseudomonas aeruginosa, the Espirito Santo State Health Secretariat said in a statement. The bacteria is known to be resistant to multiple kinds of antibiotics.

Bridi had been in the hospital in the city of Serra in Espirito Santo state since Jan. 3.

Doctors originally diagnosed her with kidney stones in December, local media said. But as her condition worsened, she was diagnosed with a urinary tract infection that spread.

The cause of the infection was not immediately known.

It reduced the flow of oxygen to her limbs, causing her feet to be amputated last week and her hands this week. Part of Bridi's stomach was also removed as doctors tried to contain internal bleeding, local media said.

Health officials on Friday said Bridi was not breathing on her own and was undergoing hemodialysis at a hospital in the city of Serra.

Best Actress Oscar Nominees 2009

Angelina Jolie,Kate Winslet, Meryl Streep and Melissa Leo will vie for the Oscar for Actress in a Leading Role at this year's